Speaking of sex …. Couples who talk about sex have better sex. That’s a fact.

Often couples want to talk about sex, but they can’t find the right words to express themselves without sounding they are criticising or being embarrassed. It seems logical that the less clear and direct you are about what you want, the less likely you are to get what you want. Practice can help.

You could set the goal of talking about sex more often with your partner. You might begin with less threatening comments. For example, comment on the actions you enjoyed. You could state new things you want to try. You could say something  like: “Mmm, that’s nice! I like it when you do that!” or: “Last night when you touched my ….., it felt great” or: “I love it when use this position”, or “Would you like to try….. ?” or:  “let’s do more of this!”

Be respectful; thoughtful; kind; positive; and, patient when discussing sex. Both you and your partner ought to feel a desire is heard, understood, and safe.