Types of relationship issues

Relationship issues come in many different shapes and forms. Below are some of the more common kinds. Most of these issues can be evident in both romantic and platonic relationships:

• Attention and priorities issues:

For example:

You struggle with negotiating how you spend your time;

You struggle expressing what is important to you;

You struggle with how your partner fits into how you spend your time and

how your partner reacts to this.

• Communication issues:

For example:

You don’t feel that you are listened to;

You’re not sure that you are understood;

You find yourself under pressure, struggling to say what you mean.

• Household issues:

For example:

You feel household chores and the use of shared space is unbalanced.

You have difficulty co-ordinating events of the day – meals, gym, time with kids, bed-time etc

• Major life changes issues:

For example:

Where you want to live;

What type of residence you want to buy;

Whether you will move house;

Whether you should change jobs or take a promotion;

Whether you ought undertake a time-consuming course of study;

Whether to remain in the relationship;

Having a baby;

How many children to have;

Or, making any other major life change;

• Money issues:

(With studies finding over 70% of people are concerned about money, it is a leading cause of stress in relationships).

You struggle with your partner’s different attitude to money management (spender versus saver)

Whether to have a joint account or separate accounts;

If you divide costs – how to decide who pays what;

Deciding on major purchases.

• Sex and intimacy issues:

For example:

You struggle with differing sex drives; continuing attraction and sexual satisfaction;

You struggle with compatible sexual activities.

• Trust issues:

For example:

You might struggle with whether your partner is telling you the truth about your relationship or other aspects of your lives.

You struggle with your partner’s past.

• Violence, abuse, and gaslighting:

(Abuse is most often far more stressful and dangerous than the other relationship issues described above).

For example:

You struggle with abuse – verbal; physical; sexual; financial; spiritual; or psychological.

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